– April Cassidy
Our Calling as Women
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment… Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet (peaceful) spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves… do what is right and do not give way to fear. 1 Peter 3:3-6
I have been married for 21 years and am a mother to two precious children. I am a part time pharmacist and a marriage blogger at www.peacefulwife.com. I also have a Youtube channel at “April Cassidy.” Soon, I will be a published author, as well. My first book, “The Peaceful Wife – Living in Submission to Christ as Lord” is scheduled to come out January 27, 2016 through Kregel Publications, God-willing, of course.
For the first 14 plus years of our marriage, I thought I was the best Christian wife ever. I prayed daily and read my Bible – sometimes up to four hours per day. I could quote all kinds of verses. But I didn’t understand why my husband was so unplugged and passive. I begged God to change him countless times. I was very Type A, take charge and get things done. I was also consumed with worry, fear, and loneliness. I thought if only God would change my husband, I would be happy. I often felt unloved and unappreciated in my marriage – like I was giving so much more than my husband was.
Then in December of 2008, God opened my eyes to see that I had been sabotaging our marriage. Me.
He showed me the sin that I had been blind to for years and how my behavior, attitudes, and motives were destructive in my relationship with Him and in my marriage. I was mortified! I thought I needed to go live in a cave for the rest of my life. He showed me so much arrogance, selfishness, self-righteousness, bitterness, unforgiveness, disrespect toward God, disrespect toward my husband, a destructive desire to control God and others, gossip, fear, worry, anxiety, and unbelief.
I didn’t have God’s peace and joy. I was trusting myself much more than I ever trusted Jesus – and didn’t even see it.
God took me on a painful journey to radically change me and to make me become more and more the godly woman He created me to be – a gentle, peaceful woman who does what is right and does not give way to hysterical fear.
I have not “arrived at perfection.” I still have thousands of miles to go on this journey with Christ myself. But I am not who I was. God has healed me!
MY VISION FOR YOU
I want you to come with me and experience the overflowing peace, joy, contentment, fulfillment, satisfaction, security, acceptance, love, purpose, and worth that is available to you in Jesus! Whether you are single or married, God has a beautiful plan for your life. He has many of the same beautiful lessons He wants to show you that He showed me. You can have all of God’s best for you right now – no matter what your current situation. I hope to share the stories of single women and married women to bless you and encourage you on your faith walk with Christ.
Sometimes we think that what married women need is so much different from what single women need. But – in Jesus, we all have much to learn about walking in full submission and obedience to Him and how to abide in Him and be filled with His Spirit. Our circumstances are different, but the lessons we learn are amazingly similar. We all have much to learn about oneness with Christ, the sufficiency of Christ, growing in our faith, growing in our prayer lives, and growing in our ability to demonstrate the love, mercy, truth, grace, kindness, and compassion of Christ to others. And we all have much to UNlearn from our culture about femininity, masculinity, marriage, family, and God. We are going to cast aside our old worldly thoughts and seek to build our lives and our understanding of these foundational concepts on the Bible and God’s Truth alone.
If you desire to be married one day – I pray that God might use this blog to help prepare you to be a godly wife. If you don’t desire to be married and are called to singleness – that is also a gift and blessing and I pray that God might use this blog to help prepare you to be a godly single woman.
I hope to share posts that will resonate with single women from young teenage girls all the way through widowed or divorced senior adults. Let’s discover the abundant spiritual life Christ has to offer to each of us together!
I can’t wait to see all that God has in store for you, my precious sister in Christ!