A precious sister in Christ has been studying this issue in great detail lately. I am not sure I am going to do justice to this topic. It could certainly be a book in and of itself! But I want to share an approach that I am really excited about regarding how we can lay our old wounds before God and experience His supernatural healing and victory. Here are some things she has shared with me and some of my own insights – I pray that they may be a blessing.

 

It is possible that:

  • Issues with our fathers affect our understanding of God and our ability to trust and relate well to Him.
  • Issues with our mothers affect our understanding of the Holy Spirit ย and our ability to trust and relate well to Him.
  • Issues with our friends/boyfriends/husbands affect our understanding of Jesus and our ability to trust and relate well to Him.

What can we do?

Take your hurts to God and pray out loud. Here are some examples:

  1. “God, I hurt a lot because I gave up my personhood, my voice, my ideas, my ability to contribute to relationships and receive love when I was younger. This caused problems in my life. I reject the lie that ‘I am not a real person like everyone else’ or that ‘I don’t deserve to have an opinion, feelings, and desires,’ and I ask You to bring healing to my soul. What will You give me in return?”

And God may be saying to you today:

“Daughter, I give you My voice.”

2. “God, I felt like I had to be perfect and perform for my Dad to make him happy. I didn’t feel loved unconditionally. I was so filled with fear about getting into trouble. The yelling scared me. I wanted a Dad who would hug me and love me and with whom I would feel safe. I know he loved me with all his heart and ability, but I didn’t feel loved. I felt afraid. I was afraid to trust. I was afraid to share my heart. This caused a big rift between my Dad and me in our relationship. I didn’t have the intimacy, faith, trust, and perfect love that I wanted in this relationship, Lord. I reject the lie that I am not safe, that I cannot trust You, that I am not lovable, or that I am not loved. I bring all of this hurt to You and release it before You. I ask You to bring healing to my soul. What will You give me in return?”

And God may be saying to you today:

“Daughter, I have called you by name, and You are Mine. You are my daughter, and I am the loving Father you never had. I will not fail you. Iย will always love ย you perfectly.”

3. “God, I give you my sadness of my mother not speaking truth over me, not praying over me, not loving me perfectly the way I wanted to be loved. I give you her fear, her lack of faith, her panic, her anxiety, and her pushing me away. I give you the pain from not having the close bond I always wanted with my Mom. I give you the sadness I have about that she gave me toxic messages about myself, about God, about marriage, about femininity, about masculinity, and about family. I know she loved me the best she could with what she knew at the time. I release this pain to You. I reject the untruths that I learned from her, and the wrong ways of thinking. I reject the lies I received from her about all of these foundational issues. What will You give me in return?”

And God may be saying to you today:

“Daughter, I give you My Holy Spirit Who is always with you, who prays over you continually, you directs you in every step you take, who will never leave you or forsake you, and who rejoices over you with singing.”

4. “God, I give you my sadness about how alone I felt as a child. I reject the lie that ‘I’m supposed to handle things by myself, I can’t ask anyone for help or support.’ I recognize that I was trusting my own wisdom, my pride, and that I trusted in lies. I give you the pain I have from not having good friends. What will You give me in return?”

And God may be saying to you today:

“Daughter, I have called you my friend. You are not abandoned. You are not alone. I am with you. I have given you all of the spiritual treasures of heaven. You belong to me – I am a Friend that sticks closer than a brother.”

 

 

 

 

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