Today, let’s tackle some tough subjects **:
- When a woman loses her job.
- When her boyfriend/fiancé loses his job.
- When one person is underemployed.
- When one person is forced into fewer hours against his/her will.
This is something many of us have experienced, unfortunately. We have been touched by several very challenging employment issues in our own marriage over the years.
WHERE CAN I LOOK FOR SECURITY AND PROVISION?
It’s scary when I don’t have that sense of financial security I usually depend on. It sure is easy to react in fear, worry, depression, discouragement, and despair. The bills keep piling up even when my paycheck stops or gets drastically reduced.
How can I possibly live in God’s peace in the midst of such chaos and uncertainty? I’m not saying it is easy. But it IS possible!
Let’s check out the wisdom God’s Word has for us all in difficult times:
- Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. Phil. 4:6 ESV
- And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose. Rom. 8:28 ESV
- Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have, because God has said, “Never will I leave you; never will I forsake you.” Heb. 13:5 NIV
- And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Phil. 4:19 ESV
- But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things (food and clothing) will be given to you as well. Matt. 6:33 ESV
- But if we have food and clothing, we will be content with that. 1 Tim. 6:8 NIV
- Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. That person should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. Such a person is double-minded and unstable in all they do. James 1:2-8 NIV
APPLYING GOD’S TRUTH TO MY TRIAL
There are some key things I want to remember in any trial – whether it is a relationship issue, a national crisis, a natural disaster, a financial crisis, or anything else. These truths apply if I am abiding in Christ, yielding every area of my life fully to Him as LORD, and walking in the power of His Spirit:
- I am NOT alone. God is there with me and He is able and willing to work powerfully on my behalf to accomplish His good purposes.
- My God is SOVEREIGN over my circumstances, my boss, my man, his job situation, my family, my community, my country, and world events.
- God is my Source of all provision. Not my current employer. Not the stock market. Not the US economy or global economy. My trust has to be in Him 100%, not these other temporary things/people.
- God promises to use trials to help conform me into the image of Christ.
- My God promises that He can and will use all circumstances ultimately for my greatest good and His greatest glory. I can hold firmly to that promise in the times of storms.
- I am a child of the Most High King of Kings and Lord of lords. I am not a beggar. I am not an orphan. I am a daughter of the King. I have access to the holy of holies 24/7 through what Jesus did for me on the cross. I can lay my needs before Him and ask for His direction, wisdom, provision, and intervention spiritually, financially, and in every way.
- God does not promise me worldly riches. But I do know He can meet my needs. Not wants, but needs.
- I can choose to rejoice in my time of trial, knowing God will use it to help me grow in my faith and spiritual maturity.
- If I have food and clothing for today, that is to be my standard of contentment in life.
- My job is to seek the Lord first, far above everything and everyone else in this world. Jesus promises that as I do this, God will provide for my basic physical needs.
These principles apply whether I am single, dating, married, separated, widowed, or divorced. God is always there for me, if I belong to Him! God’s Word is always there for me! His promises are a Solid Rock I can stand on when everything else is sinking around me.
IF I AM DATING/COURTING/ENGAGED AND MY MAN LOSES HIS JOB
The very first thing I need to do is pray alone with God. Intently. And maybe write down my fears and then write down God’s promises and truth. I may even want to sing some praises to God at the top of my voice somewhere.
My experience is, when I don’t take my thoughts captive for Christ and just bombard my man with my fears, he feels attacked. I don’t make wise choices when I react in fear. I make the best choices when I take the problem to God and lay it all at His feet and invite His solution. When I am trusting Him and resting in His goodness, sovereignty, love, wisdom, and power – I can respond in peace and even joy.
At first, my guy might not be ready for me to be cheerful. He may need some time and space to himself to process things. That’s okay. I can give him the time he needs to think through things and just listen, at first. He may doubt his ability to be a good provider when we get married. This can trigger a bit of an identity crisis for men, and for women, sometimes.
If we aren’t married yet, our finances shouldn’t be together at this point. So I don’t have to work on cutting our joint budget and reducing my spending the way I would once we are married and living together and sharing expenses. However, if we are working toward marriage, and we hit a bump in the road like this, I could seek to respond in ways like:
- Oh, no! That is a shock. I’d really love to pray about this (individually or together). I know God will provide as we trust Him.
- Oh, Honey! I’m so sorry. That is not good news. I know this puts a big twist in our plans.
- Babe, we have made it through tough times in the past. I know God will bring us through this. I’m so glad we have each other.
- What can I do to lighten the load on your shoulders right now?
- You are such a hard worker. I know you’ve got this and God has us in His hands.
- We’re a team and we are going to get through this together with God’s help.
- If we need to put the wedding plans on hold for a bit, I totally understand.
- I have total faith in you. With all of your talents and abilities, your next employer is going to be thrilled to have you on board.
If I lose my job, I would want to react in a similar way. I would want to seek to trust God and not react in fear. I would want to seek to show a cooperative, team spirit with my man.
The main things are:
- God will provide for my needs as I trust Him and seek Him first.
- I am going to thank and praise God for all He wants to do through this trial.
- I am going to trust Him completely.
- This may be an opening to an amazing new chapter in my life, and maybe a new adventure with God and with my man (if I have one in my life).
Have you ever faced underemployment or unemployment and God helped you handle it with His power and wisdom? If so, we’d love to hear your story. I’m sure it would be a blessing to so many other sisters in Christ.
**Note – in all of my writing, I am assuming I am writing to women who love Christ wholeheartedly and who want to live for Him more than anything. I am also writing for women who are only dating/courting/engaged to men who truly want to live for Christ all on their own or who are not dating/courting anyone at all. And I am assuming that you are not living together or sexually active with anyone to whom you are not married – but are honoring God’s Word to save sex for marriage.
If you don’t know Jesus as your own Savior and LORD, please click on this post. If you want to know if you might be dating a guy who is not God’s will for you, please click on this link. And if you want to live a holy life, but you don’t know how to get out of a mess you are in after making some wrong decisions to this point, please click on this link. There is every reason for hope in Jesus for all of us, if only we will turn away from anything He calls sin and yield fully to Him! We ALL have access to the abundant spiritual Life Jesus has provided for us in His gift on the cross if we will receive Him!