Questions for the Men about How Romantic Movies/Books Affect Expectations in Women Jan 3, 2015 | Uncategorized | 3 comments Share this:Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window)Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window)Click to share on Google+ (Opens in new window)Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window)Click to print (Opens in new window)Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window)Like this:Like Loading... Related 3 Comments RG on January 5, 2015 at 2:59 pm Please post the above comment everywhere! This is a major issue! Stormie Girl on January 11, 2015 at 5:02 pm I recall reading in another post that it is problematic if a man who is courting you doesn’t appear to have any sexual attraction to you. What are some biblically appropriate ways to express sexual attraction in a pre-marital relationship? Peacefulwife on January 12, 2015 at 8:36 am Stormie Girl, Each individual and couple will probably have to come to their own convictions about boundaries and how to best honor God and maintain purity and chastity. But, especially as a couple is engaged and preparing for marriage, there will need to be some talking at some point about sex and expectations – perhaps with a godly mentoring couple. And both the man and the woman should both be excited about the thought of consummating the marriage on the wedding night. They should both be looking forward to sex with eager anticipation, in my view. Some red flags I have seen: – A man who says, “God took away my sexual desire. I have no problem with lust and no temptation in this area at all with you.’ – A man who has been sexually molested as a child (this is going to take serious help for him to be healed sometimes). – A man who believes that sex is “dirty,” even in marriage, and who talks about how nasty sex is and doesn’t want to be naked with his wife after marriage. Some people don’t hug or kiss at all until their wedding day. There is nothing wrong with that – but it can mask some of these flags, especially if the couple never discusses sex together before marriage. It also makes it difficult to know ahead of time how affectionate each person will be and makes it easy to make wrong assumptions about how things will be after marriage. I don’t personally have an issue with hugging, kissing, or hand holding before marriage – some other people may. I think it may be wise not to be alone together and not to put yourself in a position where it would be easy for things to escalate. And I don’t think it is wise to do LONG sessions of hugging or kissing. There probably will need to be some degree of attraction. I think that a couple can detect that even without touching each other. I hope this helps! 🙂 I pray God might give you wisdom.