The Bible says “a prudent wife is a good gift from the Lord” Prov. 19:14.
What does “prudent” mean?
- wise, understanding, and sensible
- congenial (pleasant)
Twenty Key Attributes of a Godly, Prudent Woman:
- She is humbly open to instruction from God and doesn’t pridefully believe she is always right. She monitors her heart for sin and takes her thoughts captive for Christ. (Prov. 3:3-5, 2 Cor. 10:5)
- She is willing to graciously receive godly wisdom, and even godly rebukes, from others. (Prov. 13:1)
- She does not seek counsel, advice, or close friendship from those who are far from the Lord but chooses her close friendships and counselors wisely. (Psalm 1:1-3)
- She knows that the way she treats others is about her character and her walk with the Lord. She takes responsibility for herself, her motives, thoughts, words, and actions. (Gal. 5:22-23)
- She is able to speak the truth with love, respect, and kindness. She is not a doormat. She doesn’t give up her God-given influence but uses it wisely to honor the Lord. She doesn’t gloss over sin when it is necessary to address it. She humbly addresses any sin in her own life first. And she doesn’t address sin in a hurtful, self-righteous, prideful, or hateful way. (Matt. 7:1-5, Matt. 18:15-17, Eph. 4:15)
- She is not entitled and is not a victim. (1 Cor. 10:14, James 4:1-2)
- She is gentle. She knows how to respond softly to others rather than “pouring gasoline on a fire” when someone is upset. (Prov. 15:1)
- She is patient and doesn’t try to force her way on God or on others. She honors other people’s free will. She is flexible and able to roll with God’s will. (Psalm 28:7, Phil. 2:3-4, Phil. 4:4-7)
- She is virtuous. Her desire is to live a holy life that is in total obedience and submission to Christ as her Lord. She avoids the appearance of evil. She is modest in her dress and behavior. She avoids temptation sexually, with motives, with words, and in every other way. She guards her heart. (Prov. 4:14,23, 1 Cor. 10:13, 1 Tim. 2:9, James 4:7)
- She wants to exalt Jesus more than anything or anyone. He is firmly on the throne of her life and her heart, and she recognizes and tears out any idols. She is willing to do anything Christ desires her to do no matter what the cost. (Luke 9:23-26)
- She controls her temper. She does not become enraged or violent. She has self-control by the power of God’s Spirit. (Gal 5:22-23, James 1:20)
- She doesn’t freak out when things seem to go wrong but takes her fears and worries to God. She is not desperate for anything or anyone in this world. She trusts peacefully in the Lord. (Prov. 3:5-6)
- She chooses God’s ways and His wisdom even when the world says she is foolish. (Matt. 7:13-14, James 4:4)
- She desires God’s approval way more than people’s approval. (Gal. 1:10)
- She is industrious and willing to work hard at work, at home, and on behalf of those in need. (Prov. 31:13-22)
- She brings her man (and everyone else around her) good, not harm, all the days of her life. (Prov. 31:12)
- She is very strong spiritually in Christ and filled with dignity. (Prov. 31:25, Gal. 5:22-23)
- She does not try to control her man but entrusts him, their relationships, and her fears to the Lord. (Eccl. 7:26)
- She is not needy and clingy with her man or other people but knows how to be content in Christ alone. Her security is firmly rooted in Jesus. (Eccl. 7:26, Matt. 6:33, Phil. 4:12-13)
- She keeps a tight rein on her tongue and seeks to use her words to speak life, avoiding gossip, slander, vulgar language, obscenities, cussing, crassness, insults, hateful sarcasm, and hurtful words. (Eph. 4:29, James 1:26)
Old Testament Verses about Wisdom:
- The fear of the Lord is the beginning of knowledge; fools despise wisdom and instruction. Pros. 1:7
- Be not wise in your own eyes; fear the Lord, and turn away from evil. Prov. 3:7
- Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but he who hates reproof is stupid. Prov. 12:1
- The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, but a wise man listens to advice. Prov. 12:15
- A wise son hears his father’s instruction, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke. Prov. 13:1
- Whoever walks with the wise becomes wise, but the companion of fools will suffer harm. Prov. 13:20
- One who is wise is cautious and turns away from evil, but a fool is reckless and careless. Prov. 14:16
- Whoever restrains his words has knowledge, and he who has a cool spirit is a man of understanding. Even a fool who keeps silent is considered wise; when he closes his lips, he is deemed intelligent. Prov. 17:27-28
- I find more bitter than death the woman who is a snare, whoseheart is a trap and whose hands are chains. The man who pleases God will escape her, but the sinner she will ensnare. Eccl. 7:26
A Powerful New Testament Passage about Wisdom:
Who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life, by deeds done in the humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition in your hearts, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such “wisdom” does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, demonic. For where you have envy and selfish ambition, there you find disorder and every evil practice. But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere. Peacemakers who sow in peace reap a harvest of righteousness. James 3:13-18
We yield ourselves humbly before You. We know that in our own power we have no goodness in us at all. We are totally dependent on You and all that Jesus has done on our behalf on the cross and in His resurrection. Pour Your Life into us. Transform us by Your power. Make us the godly women You desire us to be. Use our lives for Your greatest glory. Let us love You and submit ourselves to You wholeheartedly. Empower us to live holy lives that bring joy to Your heart. Not out of duty but out of love and thanksgiving for the unspeakable gift of Jesus.
If you don’t have Jesus Christ as your own Lord and Savior, I invite you to check out what He offers you today! You can belong to Him, have His forgiveness, grace, and mercy. You can have peace with God and no condemnation after this life is over. You can live with Jesus in heaven forever!
What has the Lord shown you about becoming a more prudent, godly woman?
What are some things you would still like to learn about regarding becoming wise in God’s ways?
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