As we continue with our 21 Day Fast from Negative Words, I’d like to share some encouragement about practical ways to stop our habit of complaining. You are welcome to share any wisdom you have learned, as well!
1. Replace negative thoughts with thankful ones. Think about good things.
Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things. Phil. 4:8
2 .Memorize and meditate on Scripture.
I will consider all your works and meditate on all your mighty deeds. Ps. 77:12
I have hidden your word in my heart that I might not sin against you. Ps. 119:11
I have more insight than all my teachers, for I meditate on your statutes. Ps. 119:99
3. Focus on praising God in your thoughts and with songs.
Not to us, Lord, not to us but to your name be the glory, because of your love and faithfulness. Ps. 115:1
Shout for joy to the Lord, all the earth. Worship the Lord with gladness; come before him with joyful songs. Ps. 100:1-2
4. As soon as I mess up, I need to repent and get right back up and invite God to continue to make me more like Jesus.
If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9
5. Invite God to use the negative things in your life to help you grow in spiritual maturity, to bless others, and to bring glory to His Name.
Not only so, but we also glory in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not put us to shame, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, who has been given to us. Rom. 5:3-5
Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. James 1:2-4
NOTE – If you are not safe. If you are in an abusive or dangerous situation, these verses don’t mean to just sit there and take abuse if you have the power to leave. We have a responsibility to get somewhere safe and to keep our children safe if there are actions we can take.
6. Avoid negative input from other people (when possible), from media, music, movies, books, etc… and replace the negative input with healthy, wholesome, Christ-honoring input that will feed my soul.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Rom. 12:2
Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. Col. 3:2
7. Journal about my journey or have an accountability partner.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. Eccl. 4:12
8. Make it a group project at church, in the family, at work, in the neighborhood, with friends, or wherever.
And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, Heb. 10:24
Added Bonuses When I Stop My Habit of Complaining about Every Little Thing:
- There is more peace in my relationships.
- I have more peace in my own heart and mind.
- I can be closer to the Lord.
- I have a much more powerful witness for Jesus.
- I am more fun to be around for everyone.
- I have more joy.
- I am more attractive to my man.
- I don’t annoy myself as much.
What tips do you have to share to help us all avoid complaining?
What bonuses have you noticed when you cut way back on a complaining spirit?
Complaining VS Informing – We do need to be able to share important things. Thankfully, we can do that without complaining!
I Must Avoid Conflict at All Costs. That’s the Godly Thing to Do. – No! Sometimes we do need to engage in conflicts and disagreements. But, thankfully, in the power of the Holy Spirit, we can do that without sinning.
A Challenge – Let Your Yes Mean Yes and Your No Mean No – Sharing our desires vulnerably
Relationship with Christ
I need to have a real relationship with Jesus before I can have His power to help me control my words – or do anything else that is good. Checkout these posts and let me know if you want more info!
What Is Lordship Salvation? by www.gotquestions.org
What Is the Gospel? by www.gotquestions.org