Sometimes it is easy to think that if a guy doesn’t have a formal, written out, detailed outline of his plan for the next few years that he “must not be a godly leader.” I hear from a number of women who tend to reject guys who don’t have an official “5 year plan.” Now, I would say that if a guy has zero plans, zero ambition, no desire to get or keep a job, and just wants to sit on the couch all day and do nothing and let you do everything to take care of and provide for him – that is a problem. But is it really a sin not to have the next five years planned out in explicit detail?
We don’t even know what will happen tomorrow!
It is great to have a guy who has some initiative and who has dreams and goals. However, a guy who is pursuing Christ above all else is the most important thing. Is he really seeking to do whatever God’s will for him might be even if he doesn’t know exactly what that is yet? And is he willing to follow Jesus to whatever ministry and calling God has for him? That is the key. Even if he can’t articulate it and doesn’t know the plan in its entirety.
- It is possible to have a list of great plans, but if they are not of God, what use are they?
- It is possible to have a list of great plans, but if someone is not following Christ and listening to His Spirit, what good could come from the plans?
God’s plans are ultimately what matters, not any human plans.
Now listen, you who say, “Today or tomorrow we will go to this or that city, spend a year there, carry on business and make money.” Why, you do not even know what will happen tomorrow. What is your life? You are a mist that appears for a little while and then vanishes. Instead, you ought to say, “If it is the Lord’s will, we will live and do this or that.” As it is, you boast in your arrogant schemes. All such boasting is evil. If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. James 4:13-17
So, I vote to encourage your guy to dream, to pray, and to seek Christ. And if he has plans, awesome! Commit them to God. But seek God’s plans and His will above all else. Be willing to hold any human plans loosely – your man’s and your own – and let God lead you both into His perfect will that is infinitely better than anything you could have planned for yourselves! As you both trust Him wholeheartedly, He will make sure you don’t miss a thing He has in store for you. Keep in mind that part of “living by faith” is that we won’t know things ahead of time very often and we will need to be flexible, ready to stop when God says stop and go when He says go.
Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, “This is the way; walk in it.” Isaiah 30:21
Focus on your guy’s character and walk with Jesus – and on your own character and walk with Jesus. As you seek the kingdom of God first, God will reveal His will and how He wants you to accomplish it. He loves to show more and more of His plans and His will for us as we commit ourselves to His Lordship and to total obedience to Him. He wants to see our willing hearts to obey Him no matter what His will may be before He reveals His will.
The Essence of Our Submission to the Lordship of Christ:
“Not my will but Yours be done!” – Luke 22:42
John Piper- Finding God’s Will
Posts about God’s Will at www.gotquestions.org