From a wife who began the journey to become a godly wife in July of 2012:
Great post and so very true in my marriage.
The other day I was driving to work feeling sad and lonely about having not connected with my husband much all week. Since I’ve been learning “the peaceful wife way” for a while, I knew not to attack my husband about it. I just grew quiet.
That morning in the car I prayed and asked God to bless our marriage. Sometimes when praying I can only say a few words or I’ll burst into tears and be a mess before getting to work.
About an hour later I got a text from him that said, “Honey, what’s going on, are things ok?”. I could have said ( and did think about doing this for about 30 seconds) “Well if you hadn’t been watching a game or working in the garage every night this week, then maybe something wouldn’t be wrong?”.
Thank you Holy Spirit for helping me NOT say that. Instead, I said, “I just think its been a busy week and we have not connected much.”
He said, “Yes, I feel it and I don’t like it and I miss you.”.
That absolutely melted my heart. Then the tears really came. He actually felt it?!! Wow, thank you Lord for blessing my heart. For some reason I love when my husband says he misses me. Then he went on to say he knows it was his fault and that he was sorry. We had cuddle time that night.
I would have missed all this if I would have attacked him with my words. My husband – and I think most men – just immediately defend. But when they don’t feel like they are being attacked, I think they open up more with us and feel safe to share this heart.
These are great truths about men. Thanks Greg for sharing.