A VERY GOOD EXAMPLE IS MY DAUGHTER’S TEACHER
Think about the people you know who are fun to give to. I have to give kudos to my 5 year old daughter’s teacher at school- she is one of the best gift-receivers I have ever seen! When someone gets excited about a gift she receives, it is FUN to give to that person. This teacher demonstrated such gracious receiving at Christmas time when she was opening the little gifts the 4 year olds had given her.
She would ooh and ahh and squeal with excitement before she even opened the gifts. Then she would gush about each gift and how she would enjoy it and when and where she would use it. She modelled all the jewelry the children gave her. She acted SO appreciative of each small gift and like it was the greatest thing in the world that each child gave her something so special. I have to give her a big A+ in receiving abilities!
THE GIFT OF BEING DELIGHTABLE
What do our men see in us when they give their time or effort to delighting us? A guy’s biggest thrill is when he can delight his girl and really make her face light up. When he does something for you or buys you something – these are gifts he is presenting to you with the hope that his efforts will bring a gorgeous smile to your face that goes all the way up into your bright, beautiful eyes!
It is FUN to give to a woman who receives with joy. In fact, when a man sees that he can delight and please a woman, it becomes his mission to do even more things for her because he loves feeling like a success and loves feeling like he knows how to make her happy. A happy woman is the ultimate measure of a successful relationship in the eyes of most men.
NIX THE CRITICISM!
Instead of saying things like, “I don’t like that color on me, I’m going to take that dress back.” or “That’s not the kind I like!” or “I wanted a bigger, better ring!” (YIKES! PLEASE don’t say that!!) – we can express delight, joy, appreciation and gratitude. If gifts of time and effort and money are unappreciated by a woman, her man will eventually lose the motivation to even try to do anything special for her because “What’s the point? She won’t like what I do anyway? Nothing I do is good enough for her.”
HOW TO RESPOND TO A GIFT OF TIME OR EFFORT
A cheerful and simple, “Thank you!” with a huge smile is the least a guy deserves after doing something for you! When my man makes any effort to lighten my load or help me with chores or give me a gift (even if it is not wrapped in a bow)- I want to be sure he is glad he spent the time doing something sweet for me. I thank him right then and hug him and smile brightly at him. I am sure to tell the children how thoughtful and generous and kind their Daddy is. I might even brag on him on Facebook or to his parents or my parents or our friends. A wise woman appreciates whatever her man offers her and receives it cheerfully and joyfully.
(By the way – these suggestions about being a cheerful receiver work when just about ANYONE tries to pay you a compliment or do something kind for you!)
Our men are generally extremely generous towards us. They love us and often try to show their love by serving us, doing things for us and buying things they hope we will love. Sometimes we don’t recognize how generous our guys are because they are giving us things we didn’t ask for or things that aren’t wrapped in pretty paper with a bow. Or they don’t pay as much attention to all the details of a chore that we would. Sometimes we squash our guys’ generosity with our negative reactions and criticisms of the gifts they do offer to us.
Help us be wonderful, joyful receivers of all the gifts our men give to us. Help us inspire the generosity of our men by our gracious reception of the time, effort and money that our men spend on us. Help us to be easy to please and to be generous with showing our delight with our guys. Help us make it easy for them to feel successful and like they are doing a great job. Help us to be generous with praise and gratitude and smiles.