Curing My Compulsion to Control – Part 2

We are continuing a series that started earlier this winter: The Pain That Pushes Us to Try to Control The Cure for My Compulsion to Control – Part 1 Once I see that God is God and I am not and I begin to rebuild my thinking on His Word and truth alone, I am… Continue reading Curing My Compulsion to Control – Part 2

The Painful Past Behind a Compulsion to Control

In my experience with women who feel they have to be in control of situations and other people, there is usually some level of trauma or hurt in her past. The level of trauma can vary. But usually something happened that caused her, as a young girl, to develop the following kind of thinking: The… Continue reading The Painful Past Behind a Compulsion to Control

Stop Watching Football and Spend Time with Me! – SKIT

My latest skit video on Youtube. This one is about 6 minutes. First I share some destructive approaches to trying to get our men to give us more attention. This was the old me. These were the things I did for a long time, not realizing how much I was sabotaging the very intimacy I… Continue reading Stop Watching Football and Spend Time with Me! – SKIT

Am I His Prosecuting Attorney?

Me in 2005 – 3 years before God opened my eyes MY OLD WAYS Ugh. This describes me for so long in our relationship. I would often decide we had an issue. I would think nonstop about it all day – determining all the questions I would ask Greg so I could verbally nail him… Continue reading Am I His Prosecuting Attorney?

Am I “Too Chatty” with My Guy?

Ladies, This is another one of those topics where the key is balance. It is entirely possible to be way too talkative. It is also entirely possible to be way too quiet. Of course, what you talk about or avoid talking about also matters. When there are many words, sin is unavoidable, but the one… Continue reading Am I “Too Chatty” with My Guy?

Are Your Plans Set in Concrete?

I know many of us love to plan. I definitely tend to be a planner. We like to feel like we have everything all figured out. Some of my friends when I was in junior high school (middle school) had already decided who they would marry, how many children they would have (even how many… Continue reading Are Your Plans Set in Concrete?

Waiting on God’s Timing

Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash Patience does not come naturally to me. I tend to want things now. In my own wisdom, I can be tempted to think things like: Why wait for something important to happen later if it could happen right now? Maybe I can just force things a bit so I… Continue reading Waiting on God’s Timing

The Peaceful Girlfriend – by Lee Ann

Photo by Priscilla Du Preez on Unsplash From a precious single Christian woman in her 30s who has written guest posts for me before – this is what it looks like to date a man without idolizing him as you put the Lord first: I find myself in a new place in life… dating! Conversations are… Continue reading The Peaceful Girlfriend – by Lee Ann

20 Key Qualities of a “Prudent” Woman

The Bible says “a prudent wife is a good gift from the Lord” Prov. 19:14. What does “prudent” mean? wise, understanding, and sensible insightful good congenial (pleasant) understanding Twenty Key Attributes of a Godly, Prudent Woman: She is humbly open to instruction from God and doesn’t pridefully believe she is always right. She monitors her heart for… Continue reading 20 Key Qualities of a “Prudent” Woman

Asking Your Guy for Things

Happy Easter to each of you! 🙂 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. The one who believes in me will live, even though they die;  and whoever lives by believing in me will never die. John 11:25-26 He is risen!!! ——————- There are unhealthy, destructive ways to ask your man for… Continue reading Asking Your Guy for Things

When People Are Annoying

Every believer has to come to terms with this issue. Whether it is our dad’s tendency to leave the toilet seat up, our brother’s messy habits, our parents’ overly controlling ways, or our coworker’s loud eating habits – there are things other people do that may irritate us. How can we respond in a godly… Continue reading When People Are Annoying

Being a Peaceful Bride-to-Be

For some reason, it has almost become accepted in our culture that a wedding day is “all about the bride” and that she can do basically whatever she wants – even if she hurts her groom, family members, or friends in the process. This may be okay in the world. It may even be “normal.”… Continue reading Being a Peaceful Bride-to-Be

Do We Have to Follow Our Culture’s Traditions for Engagement Rings?

One of the best things about being in Christ is that we have so much freedom in Him! We don’t have to be slaves to the world’s ways. We don’t have to celebrate the same way the world does or live by the world’s expectations. We no longer need to feel pressured by advertisers or… Continue reading Do We Have to Follow Our Culture’s Traditions for Engagement Rings?

It’s Wrong for Men – but Is It Okay for Women?

We all know that it is wrong for a man to hit a woman, to throw something at her, to threaten to harm her, to scream at her, to cuss her out, to verbally/emotionally abuse her, to belittle her, or to take advantage of her in some way. Those things are just not acceptable at… Continue reading It’s Wrong for Men – but Is It Okay for Women?

He Wants to Be Your Hero

There is a desire in a spiritually, emotionally healthy man to be the hero for a woman who will truly admire him for his character, his Christlikeness, his words, his actions, and his abilities. Women encouraging men to be heroes is different from control or manipulation. Our ability as women in Christ to inspire our… Continue reading He Wants to Be Your Hero

One Reason Christian Guys Weren’t Interested in Me – a Guest Post

A recent pic of Amanda. I appreciate her writing this guest post for us! LOOKS AREN’T EVERYTHING! Ladies, if you are single and you want to be married some day, please hear what I have to say about the issue of modesty and how we appear, especially in a setting of Christian men. When I… Continue reading One Reason Christian Guys Weren’t Interested in Me – a Guest Post

Resources for Those Struggling with Insecurity

I believe that insecurity is one of the greatest struggles many women face and that it is often rooted in our attempts to find security in people or things other than in Christ alone. I have a lot of posts about this issue that I believe may bless you – so I wanted to round… Continue reading Resources for Those Struggling with Insecurity

The Idol of Happiness Debunked – a Guest Post

All of us, singles and marrieds – have many of the same lessons to learn in our journey with Christ. We are not really that different! So let’s link arms and walk this road together, praying for, loving, and encouraging one another. Today’s post is from two married sisters in Christ who have DIFFICULT marriages but who entered… Continue reading The Idol of Happiness Debunked – a Guest Post

Being a Peaceful “Football Widow” Girlfriend

Whether your guy becomes completely engrossed in football, baseball, basketball, racing, hunting, his work, house renovations, ministry, or something else – how is a godly woman to handle such a quandary in a godly way? We probably have more expectations of our men than we have of any other relationship, I would daresay. Many times… Continue reading Being a Peaceful “Football Widow” Girlfriend

Who Is in Control of My Life?

If my life is governed by my sinful flesh, I have yielded my mind, my motives, my heart, my mouth, all that I have, and all that I do to accomplish the purposes of the enemy. I let him speak death through me to others. I accuse others. I berate them. I insult them and… Continue reading Who Is in Control of My Life?