“I Didn’t Want to Hurt His Feelings…” – a Guest Post

From a reader with her permission: My very first relationship was with a guy who I knew, pretty early on, wasn’t right for me. He was promiscuous, dishonest and manipulative. Although I noticed those things, it took me a long time to break up with him because I was terrified to disappoint him or hurt… Continue reading “I Didn’t Want to Hurt His Feelings…” – a Guest Post

“How I Was Stirred by a Break-up but Not Shaken” – by Fortified by Christ

A guest post by Fortified by Christ, I appreciate her sharing her story:   I got married for the first time at the age of 39, which meant that I had a lot of single dating years under my belt and therefore a lot of break-up experiences. I’m sharing my story of how I bounced… Continue reading “How I Was Stirred by a Break-up but Not Shaken” – by Fortified by Christ

Extending Grace and Forgiveness to Your Man

BACKGROUND: The Bad News for all of us – men and women All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God. (Romans 3:23) No one is righteous on his or her own. Not even one. (Romans 3:10) All of our human attempts at righteousness look bloody, filthy menstrual rags in God’s holy sight.… Continue reading Extending Grace and Forgiveness to Your Man

A Godly Guy Will Respect What You Say

Ladies, When you date a man who reverences God, respects you, and respects himself – he will probably take your words at face value. That is a GOOD thing! He will believe what you say and act on it. He is not going to read between the lines or guess that you really mean something… Continue reading A Godly Guy Will Respect What You Say

How to Respect a Guy Who Wants to Leave

If you have your heart set on dating a particular godly guy* or if you are dating/courting/engaged and he decides to break up or leave – how can you show respect in such a situation? The answer is very simple even though it is the most difficult thing to do: You let him go. If… Continue reading How to Respect a Guy Who Wants to Leave

“I Can’t Let Anyone Be Upset with Me!”

This statement in the title shows that I believe it is my job to control other people’s emotions and thoughts. Do you see any problem with that? As a refresher, here is a link to a recent post about healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. AVOIDING CONFLICT Avoiding conflict can seem like a very noble, godly thing.… Continue reading “I Can’t Let Anyone Be Upset with Me!”

"When Do I Feel More Secure in the Relationship?"

  This is the last question that this precious single sister in Christ asked me: 3. When does it switch? Is there a moment when you feel slightly more secure and able to “relax” in the security of your relationship? My man is a great guy but I do wonder what it would be like… Continue reading "When Do I Feel More Secure in the Relationship?"

Why Men Leave

  FROM A BROTHER IN CHRIST IN RESPONSE TO MY POST YESTERDAY: When a guy leaves, it is pretty important that a girl know that he may have a variety of motivators. For instance, I vanished from one girl’s life because although she was fun sometimes, she was a top-rate complainer and would get very… Continue reading Why Men Leave

When He Walks Away

There seems to have been a rash of break ups lately. 🙁 How my heart aches for anyone who is experiencing that kind of intense pain and grief. In this post, I am addressing couples who were not yet married. (I have a similar post for wives whose husbands want to separate or want a… Continue reading When He Walks Away

Breaking Up with An Unbelieving Guy

My precious sisters in Christ, MANY, MANY of you are dating or engaged to men who are unbelievers.  I know that you love your man.  I know you want to see him come to Christ.  Maybe he is even promising you that he will consider Christ “later” or that he will go to church with… Continue reading Breaking Up with An Unbelieving Guy

One Christian Guy's Advice – How to Turn a Guy Down Gracefully

From a Single Christian Guy.  I want to thank this man for his take on this issue.  There are many times when a girl will begin to avoid a man who is interested in her – and that only intensifies his passion to try to “win” her.  I think this could be an interesting alternative… Continue reading One Christian Guy's Advice – How to Turn a Guy Down Gracefully

Revenge!

There are those inevitable times in life when others hurt us, sin against us and maybe even destroy parts of our lives that we hold dear. The world says, “I’m going to get even.  I’m going to make you pay!  You hurt me, now I am going to hurt you more.” I think of this… Continue reading Revenge!

Your Words Can Cause Catastrophic Damage!

Just as a general principle – DO NOT bash your man to other people. It’s not a wise idea.  It is VERY disrespectful to badmouth ANYONE.  But definitely don’t do it to your guy.  Even if your boyfriend/fiance doesn’t ever find out about it – talking about him in a negative light sets off a… Continue reading Your Words Can Cause Catastrophic Damage!

Forgiveness

We have been focusing on bitterness a good bit this week.  If you have missed it, here are links to the other posts: Be Still My Bitter Heart Bitterness is Toxic and Contagious Exploring the Depths of Bitterness Finding God’s Victory Over Bitterness STEPPING STONES TO FORGIVENESS I want to see ALL traces of bitterness… Continue reading Forgiveness

Be Still, My Bitter Heart

Today’s post is a guest post by my dear sister in Christ, Selena, at www.joyfullysubmitted.com.  Thank you, Selena, for allowing me to share this post!  I pray that it will bless and edify many for the glory of God. For the past week, some friends and I have been experiencing what it feels like to have… Continue reading Be Still, My Bitter Heart

Exploring the Depths of Bitterness

Thank You, God, for a Husband Who Is Willing to Tell Me the Hard Stuff My husband shocked me one night this week when he told me about some bitterness that he saw in me that I totally thought I had resolved.  At first, I was speechless.  I wanted to defend myself.  I wanted to… Continue reading Exploring the Depths of Bitterness

Your Words Can Cause Catastrophic Damage!

Just as a general principle – DO NOT bash your man to other people. It’s not a wise idea.  It is VERY disrespectful.  Even if your boyfriend/fiance doesn’t ever find out about it – talking about him in a negative light sets off a series of disrespectful thoughts in your mind that will erode your… Continue reading Your Words Can Cause Catastrophic Damage!