They say a picture is worth a thousand words.

My children and I saw these wedding cake toppers at Wal-Mart.  They were labelled “humorous wedding cake toppers.”

I don’t know if you can see it – but – on the top one, the grooms fingers are actually digging into the ground.  He is SO opposed to going the direction this woman is dragging him.

I know that these are supposed to be “funny.”

To me, they aren’t funny at all.  They make me so sad.

These wedding cake toppers accurately depict the destructive dynamics at work in many marriages/relationships in our culture today.

 A relationship like this will fail.

It goes completely against God’s design for marriage, for masculinity and for femininity.

It is IMPOSSIBLE for us to have the relationships  we want if we approach our men by trying to take control and dominating them.  A spiritually and emotionally healthy man will never give his heart to a woman who tries to force him to submit to her will.

It is only when we graciously allow our men to take their rightful place as the loving, selfless, godly leaders in our relationships, that we can have the intimacy and connection we truly long for.

A man must be able to enter marriage voluntarily.  

It has to be HIS idea to be with a woman and it has to be his idea to get married.

A controlling woman will repel her man.  With her own hands (and words), she will destroy the relationship.  She demands everything and he reluctantly gives her as little of himself as possible.

A woman who allows her man to lead will draw him to herself – seemingly effortlessly.  She inspires him to desire her.  She demands nothing – and yet he willingly gives her everything, including his whole heart.

***  Please only date/court godly men who have clear evidence of the fruit of God’s Spirit in their lives!  Galatians 5:22-23

God’s design for marriage – Ephesians 5:22-23, I Corinthians 11:3, Colossians 3, I Peter 3:1-7, Malachi 3, I Corinthians 13:4-8…

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