Recently, I drove my husband’s old 1997 Honda to work and everything was fine that morning. But when I was ready to leave the pharmacy at 6:00pm, the engine wouldn’t start.
That is life sometimes, isn’t it?
An unexpected trial comes out of nowhere. How will I handle it?
Seems like this has been a theme in our family this summer. And we continue to come back to this:
Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing. James 1:2-4
So here is a new real-life example. God is so good to provide me with opportunities to grow in my faith and to live out the principles of His Word. Then I get to share them with y’all!
I texted Greg to let him know that I was stranded and that I thought maybe the battery could be dead. He was about 30 minutes away and had just dropped off our kids at church. But the second he found out that I was stuck, he was on his way to help. He had a battery charger and tried multiple times to jump the Honda’s battery.
So our night looked like this:
- Greg then drove me to our house so I could eat a very quick supper.
- He took some tools with him and went by the Advance Auto Parts store and got a new battery.
- I picked up the kids from church in my car and took them by our house.
- Greg replaced the battery on the Honda and still the car wouldn’t crank.
- He found a YouTube video about what to do if the starter goes bad and he hit the starter with a hammer 3 times and got the engine running – and was surprised that actually worked.
- He drove the Honda to our friend’s car shop.
- I met him at the car shop and we drove to my work so Greg could get his car.
- We both got home around 9:00pm.
Years ago, I often felt entitled to Greg’s help. And I would have had a pretty negative, complaining attitude about the whole ordeal. I would have been exasperated and felt like the night was completely ruined.
But these days, I have a different mindset – thanks to the changes God has been doing in my heart.
SOME THINGS I DON’T WANT TO DO ANYMORE
- pressure, push, or try to control him.
- freak out.
- have a critical spirit.
- lash out at him.
- raise my voice.
- have a negative attitude toward him or toward the situation.
SOME THINGS I WANT TO DO NOW
- ask for things respectfully.
- smile at him.
- thank him with words and actions.
- use a friendly tone of voice.
- appreciate him in my heart and thoughts.
- sing songs of praise to God in my heart.
- seek to be humble.
- speak up respectfully if I think I may have important information to share.
- pray and invite God to do something beautiful and powerful in the situation.
- look for blessings and good things about which I can be thankful.
- give him the time and space he needs to think and problem-solve.
- seek to be cooperative.
- maintain a positive spirit and attitude – by the power of the Holy Spirit.
- call Greg, “my hero!”
I don’t have an entitled mentality anymore. I respect Greg’s abilities and the gift of his time. He is glad to come help me and I make sure to tell him and show him how much I appreciate all of his help.
How blessed I am to have someone in my life who is willing and able to help me when I am in a bind.
These days, I have a different perspective on trials. I can, in the power of Christ, remain calm and completely peaceful. Cheerful and joyful even. I can graciously receive Greg’s help and appreciate the things he can do so well that I am not very good at. I can be patient. I can maintain my sense of humor and fun.
If the Holy Spirit is in control of my life, I can respond with love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control (Gal. 5:22-23) even when things go wrong.
The night doesn’t have to be ruined!
We can enjoy being together and be thankful that we are a team and that we have each other to call on when something goes wrong. A night like this can be something that helps to strengthen our bond and bring us greater unity.
The way we choose to handle a trial like this could even become a wonderful memory for us to cherish.
If God has empowered you to respond with joy, peace, patience, and a good attitude during a trial in your life, we’d love to hear about it. I’m sure it would be such an encouragement to everyone.