I invite the gentlemen to share with the ladies the powerful impact a godly woman has had on your life. What I am most interested in hearing is – how did this woman act, how did she speak, what kinds of things did she say, what were her mannerisms and what was going on in your mind during the encounter and afterwards. I believe that women can benefit greatly from understanding how godly womanhood blesses and benefits our Christian brothers – and I believe that concrete, detailed examples of godly women are invaluable.
Ladies, if you have had a godly woman greatly influence your life as a mentor or example of godly femininity – I would also love to hear about it! You are welcome to share the same details I just mentioned. 🙂
FROM A 29 YEAR OLD CHRISTIAN SINGLE MAN
I love the way feminine women are sensitive to emotions and scramble to make the social environment comfortable.
I love the way they dutifully get to know people.
I remember a particular lady friend I had who probably remembers things I said years ago better than I do–I think she stores that info and studies it, and only for constructive purposes for anyone who she gets to know in such a manner. I love the way they come across as anything but threatening. She simply took me very seriously–again, she would really remember things I would say. I remember putting up a little “about myself quiz” online, which was something a lot of us put up, and amazingly she got the highest score for the one I made for myself out of anybody! I was embarrassed that I didn’t do so well on hers! I’m sure it’s not just me: just a wonderfully feminine way of being a kind listener and she studies people.
I remember another feminine woman who had a way of giving me 110% of her attention the instant I started speaking–just incredible the comfort her mannerisms gave me, putting me at perfect ease to speak as I felt I needed; a subtle but incredibly powerful interaction.
A feminine woman may look lovely or plain in a still shot, but she is invariably, staggeringly beautiful when she begins to move or speak, with grace, subtlety and gentleness.
I remember a little anecdote (not about me) but about a guy/gal who were dating in college. The guy kind of had an obsession over details, so somebody walked into his room and rearranged his DVDs on his shelf to tease him. He said to his girlfriend, “how do you think he’s going to respond to that?” She replied. “He’s going to see that and rearrange them back without saying a single word.” That’s exactly what he (the boyfriend) did when he got back (we were all hanging around). I just thought it was neat that she did a good job getting to know him well enough like that.
I can think of a woman I thanked God so much for coming upon just seemed to have an amazing and rare ability to perceive how feminist messages would hurt men. She has so much insight on how to have compassion for men and I assume she’s a wonderful wife (haven’t met her in person). I think she has tremendous dignity in herself as a woman which is *SO WONDERFUL!!!* I LOVE seeing women love themselves, esteeming their abilities to nurture! I was blessed to hear her talk to men with so much compassion, like advising them not to marry someone who saw them as an “oppressor” as she would never be able to respect a man. I just got a feeling that made me think, wow, actually knows how to look after men! To be quite frank, it was an incredible relief to see that a woman could show compassion for men, and she could actually come to a man’s defense.
I knew another woman who had a graceful voice. I can’t even imagine her yelling. I didn’t know her too well, but it’s a blessing to feel safe like that. Really attentive and non-threatening.
Most of all, women who make the effort–exceptionally rare as they are–who are indeed eager to see the hero come out of a man and make an effort to learn about the opposition that he faces: not just mercilessly telling him to “be a man” without any regard for understanding his situation. *They manage to convince me that we’re actually on the same team*, they care about my interests just as they want me to care about theirs.