God gave us our feelings and emotions to bless us.
It is important to know what our emotions are at any given time. Our feelings can be flags that tell us that all is right in our world or that there is a big problem -happy, sad, afraid, nervous, angry, worried, joyful, grateful, etc… are all gifts. If we use them well.
Negative emotions tell me that something needs to be changed or fixed. They tell me I have a problem. If I am angry, I might need to ask someone to stop doing something that violates my boundaries or to stop sinning against me. If I am lonely, I may need to seek out companionship, friendship and encouragement from others. If I am sad, I may need to process why and decide if I need to speak up to someone I care about or share my feelings with someone.
Sometimes, we learn to rely TOO MUCH on our feelings and emotions. It can be easy to make our feelings more important than anything else. That is not a healthy balance. So we must be careful to learn to listen to our emotions but not allow them to become the biggest priority in our lives.
- Feelings are not the source (or even A source) of absolute truth.
- God’s Word is the only source of absolute truth.
It is easy as a woman to think:
– I feel unloved, so I am unloved.
– I feel sad, so my life is awful.
– I feel angry, so someone must have wronged me. Maybe God has wronged me, or a man or family member or friend.
– I feel afraid, so I am in danger. I can’t trust God.
- Sometimes our emotions tell us the truth.
- SOMETIMES OUR EMOTIONS LIE TO US.
SOMETIMES WE MAY NOT BE ABLE TO TRUST OUR EMOTIONS:
– When we are exhausted
– When we are hormonal
– When we are super hungry and have low blood sugar
– When we are really sick or in a lot of pain
– When we are consumed with doubt, fear and worry
WHAT WE CAN TRUST
Emotions can change. Emotions can lie to us sometimes. Our emotions are not always trustworthy.
If we make our feelings the most important thing – we can actually make idols of our emotions.
We can turn “feeling loved” and “feeling accepted” and “feeling cherished” or “feeling in control” into idols that we cherish more than our intimacy with Christ.
If I think “I MUST FEEL LOVED BY A MAN (or a certain man) or I WILL NOT BE HAPPY,” that is dangerous ground.
God desires us to find our contentment only in Christ.
God, mercifully, will not allow us to find contentment in anything but Himself.
Our disappointments and negative feelings are sometimes signals to us that we are looking to other things/people to meet the deep needs in our souls that only Jesus can truly satisfy.
God’s Word is trustworthy. It is always true. God does not change like shifting shadows. We can depend on Him, on His promises, on the Bible and on His love.
WHEN MY EMOTIONS RAGE AGAINST MY FAITH
When my feelings (and/or the enemy) tell me lies:
– God doesn’t really love you.
– You can’t be loved by anyone, look how unloved you feel right now.
– if God loved you, He would do X for you.
– You’re all alone. God has abandoned you.
Recognize that these things do NOT line up with God’s Word.
PLEASE, trust God’s Word over your emotions or the voice of the enemy every time!
GOD’S WORD IS ALWAYS TRUE.
I can read His promises and depend on them when I can’t depend on my emotions or anything else in this life.
Jesus is our ROCK. He is our Defender. He is our Shelter. He is the Life, the Truth and the Way. He IS Love. His love never fails. His promises can never be destroyed. We can find Shelter in the shadow of His wings.