If I Don’t Say Negative Things – What Will I Talk about?

I’d like to offer some more encouragement for our 21 Day Fast from Negative Words.

I used to talk almost constantly – with no filter on my words. I don’t need to talk as much as I used to these days – and that is totally fine! But I can still talk. I just use my words very differently now. And there are wonderful things I can say.

It requires a huge paradigm shift. I lay down my old thinking and ways of talking. And I embrace a new way – God’s way – and my new nature in Jesus.

Words Can Be Used to Speak Life

I can choose to not allow my mouth, words, and thoughts to be instruments of the enemy or my sinful nature. My words can speak death, but I no longer want to do that! I want my tongue and sinful nature to be crucified in Christ and I want to live in my new nature. As a believer in Christ, I can choose to yield my thoughts, motives, and words to the Lord to be used as instruments of righteousness.

Do not offer any part of yourself to sin as an instrument of wickedness, but rather offer yourselves to God as those who have been brought from death to life; and offer every part of yourself to him as an instrument of righteousness. Rom. 6:13

25 Productive Ways to Use My Words

  1. Encouraging and building up other people.
  2. Talking about good things and things for which I am thankful.
  3. Sharing spiritual treasures and godly wisdom – once the Lord leads me and I am ready.
  4. Asking friendly questions to get to know others better and to learn from them.
  5. Noticing and mentioning how beautiful and amazing God’s creation is.
  6. Giving sincere compliments to others – as appropriate.
  7. Sharing the truth of God in love, humility, gentleness, and respect as the Lord leads me.
  8. Reminding myself of God’s promises and speaking them out loud.
  9. Talking about fun or meaningful memories.
  10. Talking about interesting things that have happened.
  11. Talking about things like music, art, science, history, hobbies, books, and other passions others have or I have.
  12. Extending empathy and sympathy to those who are hurting.
  13. Speaking blessing to others.
  14. Witnessing and sharing the love and truth of the Gospel of Jesus.
  15. Talking about plans and dreams (while keeping in mind to seek the Lord’s will above all of my plans).
  16. Sharing my concerns respectfully.
  17. Sharing about my day and focusing primarily on the good things – and looking for the good even in the difficult things.
  18. Updating people about family and friends – without gossiping.
  19. Informing others about important things I need to tell them about – even problems – but in ways that honor the Lord.
  20. Addressing sin in humble, respectful, gentle God-honoring ways.
  21. Setting appropriate boundaries and limits on those who continue in unrepentant sin toward me.
  22. Sharing my desires and feelings in vulnerable, gracious ways.
  23. Praying with a prayer partner.
  24. Praying to the Lord.
  25. Praising God.

Of course, there are many other things, too. This is just a list to get us started.

As I learn to use my words for blessing and righteousness, I will need to allow the Holy Spirit to filter my words. A lot of things don’t need to be spoken. Many things are harmful. So my words will be fewer once I allow the Holy Spirit to bridle my tongue. I will choose my words more carefully. And I will take more time to listen and to seek to understand before responding. I may even pray before I have an important discussion to make sure I am listening to the Lord and His Word and responding in ways that honor Him.


What kinds of positive things have you found that you can talk about? How are you doing with your 21 day fast from negative words? Any struggles or problems you want to talk about together? Maybe we can encourage each other. 💜❤️💜

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  1. The list was wonderful. I WL price t I and place it where I can see it regularly.
    This week I was cornered to call my MIL with whom I share little in common. She isn’t a Believer, and I often feel picked part and criticized by her.
    I did pray before calling and we both stuck to topics that were safe and I found myself complimenting her in an area I struggle with.
    Due to beating myself up about this, I don’t think I would naturally have mentioned it.
    I think it surprised her and made her feel better that I noticed something positive
    I hate to argue by nature, so my struggle is speaking up about positive things when someone is opposed to the things faith wise or value wise that I cherish.
    I can feel I am being a traitor.
    For those of us who are introverted, the words we speak to ourselves are ever more important, since we often may not offend someone else directly, but have thoughts which are unfairly judgementa, harsh or superficial. Those thoughts are , ” self- talk” which is even more damaging to our own soul, than what we say outloud.
    Live the list; I will be using it today!

    1. Southern Gal understands,

      I’m super excited that you found something positive to share with her. THAT IS AWESOME! And bridge-building. And unifying for your relationship.

      We actually all have to be careful not to insult ourselves or hate ourselves, as well. Very good point. Hmmm… may be another good post topic!

      Thank you so much for sharing. Much love and may God bless you and all of those who are seeking to allow the Lord and His Spirit to control our tongues – and our thoughts!

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