Ladies –
I am hearing from countless women who married men they KNEW were addicted to porn. Big mistake!
- He says he’s a Christian
- He uses porn every day/multiple times a week
Porn is addictive and works just like a drug. Yes, God can heal men – but this thing is TOUGH to treat and very easy to relapse – especially since it is so easy to obtain porn in secret in your own home. Most of these young wives were also having sex before marriage – another huge cause of MAJOR sexual problems in marriage (but that is for another post!).
Please understand – a husband who is addicted to porn will probably NOT want sex that much with his wife. And he will probably not be content with his wife’s body or with their sexual relationship. The problem with addictions is that it takes a greater and greater potency of a drug or substance to keep achieving the same high. Porn is the same way. It takes more and more extreme pictures to keep maintaining that high until men (and women who are addicted) need to add violence or increasing levels of perversion to keep the high going. And then eventually, many men move to strippers, and then to prostitutes or affairs.
I know that most young men have used porn at least occasionally – most of them start in their younger teen years. This is a lifelong addiction. It is very destructive. Don’t think that it is a harmless habit that won’t bother your marriage. Your eyes need to be WIDE OPEN on this issue, ladies!