I would like to encourage you to keep private relationship stuff private and off of your public Facebook page, Twitter account, Instagram, etc…
I personally believe it is wise to post things on social media like:
- interesting, fun things you are doing
- sweet pictures
- positive comments
- funny little insights you may have that would bless other people
- kind observations
- respectful things about others
- things that are in line with Philippians 4:8
There are some things that I believe are NOT wise for us as godly women to post on social media like:
- too much PDA – pictures of you and a guy in bed, kissing in a provocative way, being half dressed
- rants about how angry you are at your man or anyone
- crass/foul language
- jokes with sexual innuendo or explicit content
- the details of a fight you have had with someone
- a list of your man’s or your ex’s faults and sins (or anyone else’s)
- personal/private conversations
- pictures of you that could have the appearance of evil
There are SO MANY REASONS why it is wise not to post these kinds of things – employers may choose not to hire you based on what they see. NOTHING you post on FB or any of the social media sites or even things you text on your phone are ever deleted. There are people who could dig these things up and use them against you in the future.
You cannot take back destroying someone’s reputation on FB or Twitter. The damage that we can cause to others on social media is astronomical. I don’t believe it is ever appropriate to “air our dirty laundry” in public like that. That is EXTREMELY disrespectful to anyone, and it does not honor God.
Go to a godly mentor if you are having a lot of trouble in your relationship – an older, spiritually mature woman who lives out God’s Word and is a prayer warrior or a godly Christian counselor. But other people do not need to know about the arguments, fights and issues you are having with your friends, family or boyfriend.
I believe that God’s Word gives us a beautiful standard of how to use our words that we can apply to EVERY area of our lives – even social media!
CHECK OUT MY PEACEFUL SINGLE GIRL FB page today – we are talking in more detail about this issue!
TIME FOR A HEART CHECK:
Am I using God’s standard in how I speak to others in person and on social media??? Ask God to help you see areas that He wants to change…
29 Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. 30 And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God, with whom you were sealedfor the day of redemption. 31 Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. 32 Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you. 5 1 Follow God’s example, therefore, as dearly loved children 2 and walk in the way of love, just as Christ loved us and gave himself up for us as a fragrant offering and sacrifice to God.
3 But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people. 4 Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving. 5 For of this you can be sure: No immoral, impure or greedy person—such a person is an idolater—has any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.[a] 6 Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. 7 Therefore do not be partners with them.
8 For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Live as children of light 9 (for the fruit of the light consists in all goodness, righteousness and truth) 10 and find out what pleases the Lord. 11 Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. 12 It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret.13 But everything exposed by the light becomes visible—and everything that is illuminated becomes a light. 14 This is why it is said:
“Wake up, sleeper,
rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.”
15 Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, 16 making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. 17 Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. 18 Do not get drunk on wine, which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, 19 speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, 20 always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. – Ephesians 4:29-5:20