Time to Nip that Relationship ASAP!|Peaceful Single Girl

SIGNS THAT YOU ARE IN TOO DEEP WITH A MARRIED/UNAVAILABLE MAN OR UNBELIEVER:

you get butterflies in your stomach if you know you might see him
you think about him often
you imagine what life would be like with him and daydream about him
you pay extra attention to your wardrobe/hair/make-up if you think you might see him that day
you want to (or you actually DO) call him/text him/FB message him/email him privately
you really enjoy being around him
you find yourself wanting to hide things (or hiding things) from your coworkers/family/friends about your relationship and contact with this man
you smile constantly when he’s in the room
you go out of your way to try to run into him
you want to share big news with him before you want to tell anyone else
you like it when he looks at you and flirts with you
you feel like he “really understands” you
you want to confide all your feelings and thoughts to him
you begin to depend on his emotional connection and sharing
you know your feelings are out of control for him
you “feel loved” by him
you feel anxiety about him

SIGNS THAT A MAN IS DANGEROUS FOR YOU:

your parents/boyfriend/fiance ask you not to talk to the guy or see this other guy anymore
he flirts with you a lot
he gives you frequent compliments
he puts your boyfriend/fiance down or says, “If I were your man, I’d do X!”
he subtly begins to try to “control” you – to tell you how he wants you to dress, wear your hair, who you talk to or what you do
he demands your time and attention
he gets really offended if you don’t call/message/email/text/visit/respond
when you get nervous that things may be going too far, he pulls back and insists calmly, “We’re just friends! Everything’s cool!”
he seems so interested in hearing about God and the gospel but only wants to hear about it in private and doesn’t want to talk to a man about God – only YOU.
he makes it clear that he intends to be with you romantically
he doesn’t respect your boyfriend/fiance
he tries to isolate you
he wants to “counsel” you or “guide” you in your life and in your marriage as if he has wisdom to offer and you are his “student.”
he wants you to be willing to sin to be with him or for him
he is telling other people about his sexual plans for you
he talks about sexual things with you
he touches you/hugs you or worse
he tries to get you alone and tells you nothing is wrong with your relationship with him
he tries to convince you that adultery/fornication is not sin in this case – you and he are the exception
he undermines God’s Word
he gets aggressive, sexual or violent with you
other people comment on the inappropriateness of your relationship with this man
gossip is spreading about you and this man

I Corinthians 6:18-20 is REALLY clear about what God desires me to do in these situations:

Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.

GUARD YOUR HEART AND MARRIAGE!!!

immediately cut off all contact with this man (enlist help from your boyfriend, a godly friend, your boss, church leaders – if necessary)
if you work with him, try to change schedules or stores if possible so that you are not with him at all (whenever possible – if it is up to you – try not to work with men!)
if you go to church with him, you may need to consider changing churches
block him on FB
stop all calls/texts/emails completely – change your number and email if necessary
if you have to see him, tell him you can’t talk to him/be friends/have a relationship anymore – that it is not appropriate – BUT the more you try to talk, you give him more opportunities to squeeze back into your life and heart. Sometimes it is just better to flee!
talk with a godly older woman who can help pray with you
spend lots of time in God’s Word
seek to be sensitive to God’s Spirit and His conviction of any sin on your part
REPENT! Turn from your own way to God’s way with all your heart.
focus on Jesus being LORD of everything in your life