Our culture encourages women to dress to bring attention to our bodies and ourselves.
- Reveal lots of skin.
- Showcase your wealth (or go into debt to try to look beautiful).
- Spend tons of time and money trying to fit into the narrow window of beauty as the culture defines it.
- Make beauty and being sexy your idols.
God’s ways are different.
I’m so thankful! His ways bring freedom and life.
He calls us to dress in such a way that we bring attention to Him. We don’t need to seek to draw the eyes of other men to our bodies. We don’t need to try to have the most elaborate hair, makeup, or jewelry or seek to be the most beautiful according to the world’s standard.
God calls us to dress modestly. This means we cover our bodies. Not out of shame—but out of respect! We wear clothes that show we have respect for ourselves, respect for others, and reverence for God, most of all.
We don’t have to try to impress everyone with externals. He sets us free from people-pleasing!
We let the love and light of Christ radiate through our faces and our lives. The joy and peace we have in Him are more beautiful than any makeup or jewelry.
It’s about our hearts. Our motives.
Why Do I Wear What I Wear?
Whose attention do I long for most? That of…
– The world?
– The attention of men?
– Other women (maybe to make them jealous?)
Or am I seeking to please an Audience of One?
What Message Do I Want to Send?
When I dress modestly and without elaborate displays of wealth, I communicate:
- I am not competing for attention or status with other women.
- I have no desire to be a threat to other women in their marriages and relationships.
- I don’t want to place a stumbling block in front of my brothers or sisters in Christ.
- I honor my current relationship.
- I honor my future marriage.
- I honor my body and the God-given gift of sexuality.
- I show godly men that I am a woman of honor.
- I don’t want people’s attention on me but on the Lord.
- I seek to exalt Christ not self.
My favorite definition of modesty is:
humility in clothing.
Is It Time to Go Through My Closet?
Prayerfully consider each piece of clothing you own. Of course, some things you can keep to share with just your husband in private for him to enjoy.
But the things you wear in public, invite God to help you test your heart and motives. Invite Him to help you decide if it’s time to make any changes that will honor Him more.
SCRIPTURE ABOUT MODESTY AND BEAUTY
Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire, but with what is proper for women who profess godliness—with good works. 1 Tim. 2:9-10
Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious. 1 Pet. 3:3-4
Charm is deceitful, and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised. Prov. 31:30
Finding Modest Clothes
I know it is very difficult to find modest clothes today. I have some posts on this topic if you are interested. You can check them out here.
Much love! <3